Do we always feel the need to do right by everybody around us? Compromise and some degree of sacrifice are essential, however, there is a difference between making sacrifices and exceeding your limits. Setting boundaries and limits in a relationship lead to a healthy relationship.
Recognizing and acknowledging your feelings are essential to set boundaries. Knowing your limits and recognizing how other people take advantage of you, will help you set boundaries appropriately.
A while back, I had an encounter with someone who couldn’t say no to people directly when asked for favors. He wouldn’t tell them he can’t meet their demands for whatever reasons, but would lead them on to believing that he got them! A particular incident happened where a friend asked for some favor from him and he immediately started avoiding the friend. It was ridiculous because, at a time, he was unable to sit on his balcony for fear of the friend walking by…was that cowardice or what?
I could absolutely not wrap my head around it. I felt it was emotionally draining and physically exhaustive to be that evasive when you could simply say NO.
People assume fewer disagreements equals fewer conflicts right? That is very untrue! Let me say this, if you cannot say no and create boundaries, you stand a risk of ruining your relationship.
It is noble to be upfront rather than complain to every other person than the individual involved. Saying NO doesn’t make you a bad person, it just means you know when to draw the line.
Watch out for setting boundaries in marriages.
Kindly share your thoughts and experiences.