Despite everything I have been through, I remain strong, happy, optimistic and sexy because I am not my scars! They say scars are a reminder that the past is real but I say scars are a reminder of how tough I am.
I have hidden my scars for so long and have allowed my insecurities to rule my life. I am coming out of my insecurities for the sole purpose of reaching out and creating awareness. Breast cancer is real and we must together hope for a cure.
This is to encourage someone out there that it is feasible to fight cancer and stay beautiful, without breasts and nipples. It is definitely not a walk in the park, it is not easy, but it is achievable. I have struggled with my body image after I had my mastectomy. Sharing my pictures is a huge progress in gaining my confidence back and celebrating my body after a mastectomy. I may not be where I desire to be, but I’m definitely not where I used to be.
I had a breast reconstruction after my bilateral mastectomy. It was a reconstruction and not an augmentation. It left me lopsided with scars. Sadly, I allowed these scars to define my life for years. But thankfully, I know better today and I love myself so much, I can’t begin to explain.
Breast cancer is not something to be afraid of. Understandably, Breast cancer is not what anyone would wish for, but it is more dangerous to ignore it or be driven by fear and anxiety whereby you push away screenings or self-examinations.
Symptoms of Breast cancer
- Any change in shape or size of the breast
- A hard immovable lump in the breast or underarm
- Nipple discharge
- Skin dimpling
- Skin sores
- Touch yourself purposefully
- Look for any changes
- Seek professional help if need be
- Encourage every woman to visit a doctor periodically
I was once referred to as an amputee. It was incredibly hilarious and I wasn’t the least upset because that was a huge display of ignorance. I wear this scars with pride today, stepping out of my comfort zone because I want to reach out to women and men who may be affected by this monstrous disease.
To all breast cancer survivors, you are beautiful irrespective of what your scars look like. You are all troopers and are extremely sexy, with or without breasts!
It is better to strive for optimism and happiness than worrying about tomorrow that is not guaranteed. Choose wisely and make a conscious effort to stay happy. Worrying doesn’t take away the issues of life, it only deprives you of maximizing the good things of life.
I would encourage everyone to try this breast cancer quiz by the American cancer society, you could learn a thing or two.
Click here to take the test.
Together let’s fight for a cure!
13 thoughts on “I am not my scars!”
Ekanem10/02/2018 at 10:56
What can i say? Don’t give up……You are a very strong woman
Sam12/06/2018 at 13:39
I’m fighting like a champ and will never give up!
Naomi10/02/2018 at 19:30
You are sure a strong being. Love your courage. Read your advice on symptoms of cancer. Does our diet matter in cancer prevention and management?
Sam12/06/2018 at 13:39
Yes, diet is very important in the management of cancer and your general body wellbeing.
Grace Mfongang10/02/2018 at 21:34
Sis you are stronger than I could eva imagine.May God continue to bless n keep u.we luv u
Sam10/04/2018 at 11:12
I love you too… Thanks
Sam12/06/2018 at 13:40
You dont know how strong you are untill that is the only option you have in life… love you too sis
Amandela-Wife, Mom, Blogger10/07/2018 at 09:38
Girl, I felt weak for a moment when I saw your pictures and then I was inspired by your strength. I was weak just looking at some physical changes you endured and I have no idea of what internally you experienced. It’s amazing how you fought, you survived, and your brave enough to tell your story. You rock, you are amazing. And it’s not just about the month, but know that every day belongs to you! Love you and thank you for sharing your inspiring story!
Sam10/08/2018 at 18:04
Love you too girl!
Blair10/07/2018 at 11:16
Thank you for sharing. Our scars are what reminds us we are survivors. I have had a couple of accidents I was told I was lucky to have lived through. I carry physical and invisible scars. My blog allows me to heal in a way that medicine and physical treatment can’t. If it wasn’t for my injury I My not have persuaded my interest in writing and photography and never stated a blog to share.
What you do here is so important to all of us survivors. There is no shame in our scars we can wear them with pride.
Sam10/08/2018 at 18:02
You are absolutely right….. there is no shame in our scars. I’m glad writing helps you heal…I visited your blog and its awesome! I’m sorry to hear about your accidents, you are a trooper! keep being strong and I love you.
Tonya Herald10/11/2018 at 07:11
You are very beautiful and very strong! Everything we endure makes us that much stronger.
Anonymous11/11/2020 at 06:48
Love you Sama. You are beautiful just the way you are…inspiring!